Sunday, August 25, 2024

Less Lovable.

And someday, you will find that pair of arms where it is okay not to be strong.


A pair of arms where you can take your armor down. Where you can be nakedly vulnerable. Where you can unmask your skin, shout your burdens, and release your pain. Where you can stop pretending tireless. Where you can pause in being a fighter and surrender for once. Where you can rest your tired soul. Where you don't have to hold back your tears. Where you don't have to quiet down your hurt. Where you can always show your weak spots.


And when you find it, you'll realize that a pair of arms that is meant for you will allow you to be weak but will not find you less lovable.



Wednesday, August 21, 2024

I know it hurts.

I know it hurts. 

It’s a very strange feeling how someone can be in your life for months or even years and then one day all of a sudden not be there anymore. 

Maybe the relationship ended on good terms. or maybe it was completely catastrophic.

Either way it’s so bizarre how relationships can change so vast and rapidly. 

And you know what, you may not be at peace with what happened between the two of you and thats perfectly fine.

Sometimes the end of a relationship can literally be one of the hardest things we go through in life.

I want you to know it’s okay that your heart still hurts because of what happened. 

You have made a lot of memories with this person.

And these memories that you have made is something you can’t erase no matter how hard you try. 

Whether you like it or not, they are a part of your story.

I know looking on these memories can be hard, and you may wish you could forget them.

But instead of forgetting, maybe we should try to focus on what came from the relationship.

You two joined paths for a particular reason.

Maybe you walked through some of the hardest times together.

Maybe you understood each other in a way no one else ever did.

Maybe you encouraged one another to be strong or to embrace who you genuinely were as a person. 

Or maybe your relationship with them opened your eyes to what you truly needed in your life.

Regardless of what the reasoning was, it’s okay to acknowledge that. That person meant a lot to you.

And it's okay if they still do.

It’s also okay that they aren’t in your life anymore. 

What a lot of people don't understand is, not every relationship we encounter will last a lifetime. 

You shouldn't be lingering in the past questioning why everything happened the way it did. 

What you need to do is to take what you've learned from that relationship and move forward in your life. 

Knowing there are other relationships that will give you exactly what you've always dreamed of and more. 

I need you to know that you're not going to feel this way forever. 

You will continue to move forward and you will continue to grow with everyday that passes. 

Remember,

"Sometimes the people you wanted as part of your story, are only meant to be a chapter."



Monday, August 19, 2024

High Standards.

Nobody talks about this. Nobody talks about after you finally heal from a traumatizing relationship.


When you have taken the time to concentrate on yourself and you are finally in a place where you're done healing and you are ready to step out into the dating world again, it's nearly impossible to find someone because you see the red flags in everybody.


You see so many things you're not willing to compromise with because you actually trust your intuition. 


You can see when things are an issue with people, and you know you won't be able to get over it later on in that relationship.


So you don't allow your feelings to get in the way of logic and just cut it off before it even gets to that point.


Then you realize how many people aren't actually working on themselves and are just seeking a shallow connection. 


They aren't even looking to improve themselves as a partner in a relationship, and they think their perfectly fine the way they are.


So there's no room to grow into a relationship together because they are already set in their ways.


It's a little exhausting at times because you also feel lonely during all of this and that sadness can take a toll on you but you have to remember one thing .....


It's better to be single with high standards than in a relationship settling for less.



Wednesday, August 14, 2024

She is POWERFUL.

Here is a truth you often don’t hear: Traumatized women have the potential to become the most powerful people in this world.

The most ignorant members of society call this type of woman “damaged.” But she is the most powerful type of woman there is.

What they forget is that survivors have the most dangerous advantage of all: resilience.

When you try and you try but you can never bring a woman down, you’ll know there is no going back.

Don’t fool yourself. You could never defeat her. You never will.

This is the woman who will always rise from the dead; Lady Lazarus, after going through hell and back.

This is the woman who has burned her feet in the flames time and time again and always lives to tell another tale – even if she has to crawl back to life. . . .

When someone tells her, “You can’t do it,” she says, “Watch me.”

She is fiery light birthed out of wintery darkness. Brought into the underworld by Hades, Persephone brings forth spring and rebirth when she reemerges finally from the cold.

She owns her shadows and seamlessly weaves them into the fabric of her freedom, creativity, imagination and independence. . . .

She lived all of her nightmares in high definition. She was given every reason to give up, handed every justification to never believe in herself or anyone.

But there is raw magic in the ways in which she cultivates a faith in herself, to manifest the dreams her soul was meant to bring forth.

Despite it all, she still conquers.

She still survives and thrives.

The “damaged” woman is capable of immense manifestation not just in spite of, but because of the traumas she has gone through.

There is no one more motivated than a woman who has constantly been told what she cannot do or who she cannot be throughout her lifetime.

There is no one more determined to succeed than someone who has nothing left to lose.

The “damaged” woman doesn’t sign up for the hardships of her journey – but she plays the hell out of the cards she’s been dealt.

The “damaged” woman is not damaged at all – she is wounded, and in channeling and healing her wounds, she becomes the source of incredible energy, the site of unbelievable potential for abundance and change.

She possesses the power to use her wounds for the greater good and her highest good.

She builds her own success and becomes her own rugged hero; tends to her own scraped knees.

She uses every stone thrown at her to build the foundation for her empire.

Brick by brick she builds – and despite every attempt to tear her walls down, she rescues herself again and again.

Despite it all, this type of survivor may still face hatred, envy, greed from those around her. . . .

As a result, she becomes the survivor of countless witch hunts, the target of many persecutors. Yet when they try to burn her at the stake, she does what comes naturally: she resurrects herself. . . .

Now when she creates, she creates new worlds and transforms and manifests on a level that cannot be recreated by someone who never had to struggle to survive.

When you hear the voice of a powerful survivor and the will of a warrior – there is nothing you can do but to stop and listen.

She is the voice of a million lifetimes lived.

She is the voice of the hopeless and the powerless when the fire is brought back to their eyes. She is the harbinger of the justice that the voiceless have longed to hear and feel and touch.

Regardless of how much you try and how it may seem, you can never truly bring a survivor like this to her knees; she already knows the value her scars bring.

She knows how to fill the cracks between her wounds with gold.

She knows how to transform each bitter word cast upon her into an iron-clad will that will set her and other caged birds free.

You can’t ever defeat a “damaged” woman, because she knows exactly how to save herself.

SHE IS POWERFUL.



Monday, August 12, 2024

Love visited me. 🔑

Patience visited me

And it reminded me

That good things take time to come to fruition

And grow slowly with stability


Peace visited me

And it reminded me

That I may remain calm through the storms of life

Regardless of the chaos surrounding me


Hope visited me

And it reminded me

That better times lay ahead

And it would always be there to guide and uplift me


Humility visited me

And it reminded me

That I may achieve it

Not by trying to shrink myself and make myself less

But by focusing on serving the world and uplifting those around me


Kindness visited me

And it reminded me

To be more gentle, forgiving and compassionate toward myself

And those surrounding me


Confidence visited me

And it reminded me

To not conceal or suppress my gifts and talents

In order to make others feel more comfortable

But to embrace what makes me me


Focus visited me

And it reminded me

That other people’s insecurities and judgements about me

Are not my problem

And I should redirect my attention

From others back to me


Freedom visited me

And it reminded me

That no one has control over my mindset, thoughts and wellbeing

But me


And love visited me

And it reminded me

That I need not search for it in others

As it lies within me.



Sunday, August 11, 2024

That's the ONLY way🌟

You don’t heal by going out & drinking to forget. 

You don’t heal by pursuing a bunch of meaningless connections. 

You heal on the evenings when you sit alone with your thoughts and on the weekends when you have no plans. 

Those solo car rides with the music up really loud mixed with the sound of your singing because nobody is listening. 

Through tears, difficult mornings, & multiple sleepless nights. 

You heal by doing all of the hard work. 

That’s the ONLY way. ✨



Friday, August 9, 2024

Marry up.

 NARCISSISTS DATE UP AND MARRY UP...

And here's why I think that is. By doing so, the narcissist wants someone who will make them look good....it's as if they are saying, “See who I'm with. I'm a heck of a person.” And you have something else the narc wants, such as your finances, or a willingness to stick with it at all costs. 

Often, the narc thinks you are an upgrade over the other supply, and they'll get more from you. It's never about what the narc says it's about...such as love. With the narc, it's always about getting, not giving. Narcs are takers, and we are givers, so you can see why things go wrong.  

Then, since you are above the narc, they have to run you down privately and perhaps to others when you don't realize it, simply because the narc knows you're the better person. 

It's weird, but in the narc's mind, you have to be demeaned, put down and belittled SO THE NARC FEELS AT YOUR LEVEL, or even better than you are. But, in reality, the narc knows the truth.

What else did you notice...what did the narcissist have to gain by being with you?



Her reflection is your creation.

A woman mirrors what she receives. Treat her with love, and she'll give it back tenfold. Stand by her, and she'll stand by you even ...