Thriving Forward🫶

Being screamed at in a relationship is not normal.

Being criticized is not normal. 

Being belittled is not normal. 

Being controlled is not normal. 

Being manipulated or coerced is not normal. 

When abuse is all you’ve known, it feels normal. 

But it is not. 

You deserve normal. 

Normal is feeling safe.

Normal is having autonomy

Normal is having security.

Normal is feeling strong.

Normal is experiencing mutual respect.

Normal is being loved to a degree that feeds your very soul. 

Abuse, though devastatingly common, is not normal. 

Once you experience normal, you’ll wonder how you ever lived without it.

Thriving Forward..

The Something. 💯

Ladies..

A man calling you babe, baby, or sweetheart means nothing. 

A man buying you expensive gifts means nothing. 

A man becoming your baby father means nothing.

A man moving in with you means nothing 

A man taking you to expensive dinners means nothing, 

Even a man taking you out clubbing every weekend means nothing, and let me shock you, a man marrying you also means nothing.

What truly means something is, a man who genuinely respects, values and supports you and changes himself, his lifestyle and his ways just to keep you.

That my dear, is what truly means something.

Kindness for weakness.

Yes, I can be the most difficult person you will ever meet. I have my faults and I have my baggage. I can go from this is the best day of my life to I just want to be alone in 5 seconds flat. I can be moody and temperament and how I feel changes faster than anyone can keep track. I am emotional and I feel things very deeply. I walk a thin line between what I should say and how I should act and how I feel. 

I have very high standards and I hold the people I care for in high regard. If you tell me you are going to do something I expect you to keep your word. Do not tell me you will (or will not) do something and turn around and do it anyway. 

I do not like grey areas, I believe everything should be black and white. I can detect a lie from a mile away. If I think you're lying to me I shut down. 

Sometimes I'm wrong and I over think things but most of the time my intuition leads me in the right direction. Like I said, I have faults but there are things about me that make my hard times worth dealing with. I may be emotional but that's because I care very deeply and when I give you my love it's all or nothing. 

I don't do anything halfway. I'm the girl you can call at 2am and I am still going to be the same compassionate person I would be at 2pm. If you are part of my life you know that I give people way more chances than they deserve but when I'm done, I'm done.

 If I have ever loved you, I will always care about you even if I stop loving you. When I decide I want something I go for it. I may come off as pushy but I'm just not subtle. I will do anything for the people I love and will give up things that matter to me to make them happy but the second I feel like you wouldn't do the same for me I stop giving up who I am for you. 

Sometimes my kindness gets mistaken for weakness but the more you get to know me you will see I am far from weak. The best part about being an emotional wreck is that when all is said and done, I'm going to be ok. It may take awhile but I can get through anything. And last but not least, I am the kind of person you either love or hate. If you can't handle me as I am, then don't waste my time.