Her reflection is your creation.

A woman mirrors what she receives. Treat her with love, and she'll give it back tenfold. Stand by her, and she'll stand by you even stronger. Speak to her kindly, and her warmth will flourish. Make her feel secure, and she'll create a haven of peace around you. But give her silence, and she'll grow quiet. Offer indifference, and don't expect affection. Neglect her heart, and she'll stop offering it. Make her feel disposable and eventually, she'll walk away. A woman reflects what you invest in her. If she's distant, it's not without cause—she’s tired of giving without return. If she seems cold, it’s because she’s done setting herself on fire to keep others warm. Women respond; they don’t withdraw without reason. So if she’s pulling away, look inward. Love her with purpose, consistency, and tenderness. Because once she starts guarding her heart more than the relationship…the woman you once knew may fade. She’s a reflection.

What most fail to understand is that women are not naturally cold or detached. They become that way when their love has been stretched too thin without replenishment. When she no longer feels valued, her spirit slowly hardens, not because she wants to, but because survival demands it. A woman who feels cherished will bloom endlessly, surprising you with the depth of her loyalty, kindness, and strength. But a woman who feels taken for granted will eventually protect her soul, even if it means walking away from someone she once would have given everything to.

A woman mirrors the effort, energy, and emotion given to her. If you inspire trust, she will trust you beyond measure. If you inspire fear, she will shield herself. If you show her consistency, she will build stability with you. Her reflection is your creation. So treat her not as temporary, not as convenient, but as the treasure she is. Love her in action, not just in words, because she notices both. Invest in her heart, and she will invest in your future. But remember—once a woman feels safer in her own silence than in your presence, no mirror can reflect what was broken. Choose your actions wisely, because what you give is what you’ll see reflected back forever.

Stay Guarded.

A narcissist is someone who says everything you’ve ever wanted to hear…

But never backs a single word with real action.

They’ll mirror your dreams, your values, your hopes. They’ll study your heart and speak to it with precision. In the beginning, they’ll love-bomb you with compliments, promises, and illusions of a perfect future. They’ll make you feel seen, chosen, and safe… not because they actually mean it, but because they need you to believe it.

That’s the hook.

They’ll talk about forever. They’ll talk about marriage, building a life, starting a family, growing old together. They’ll make you feel like everything you’ve ever been missing is finally here. And for a while? It feels like magic. But soon, their mask starts to slip… and the same person who once spoke to your soul now chips away at it.

Because a narcissist doesn’t fall in love with you... they fall in love with the control they think they have over you.

Suddenly, the person who promised to protect you is the one causing the most harm. The communication turns into criticism. The warmth turns cold. The support turns silent. And you’re left questioning yourself, doubting your instincts, and apologizing for pain they caused. 

You go from feeling chosen to feeling like an option. From being uplifted to being emotionally drained.

And they’ll gaslight you every step of the way.

Make you feel crazy for noticing the switch.

Make you feel guilty for having needs.

Make you beg for the version of them that never truly existed.

That’s not love.

That’s manipulation wrapped in sweet words and empty promises.

And the worst part? They never take accountability. They rewrite the story so it looks like you’re the problem, while they play victim to the damage they created.

So let’s be clear:

Love doesn’t confuse you.

Love doesn’t lie to you.

Love doesn’t destroy your peace and call it “passion.”

A narcissist will paint the perfect picture of a future with you… only to deliver a nightmare you’ll have to heal from. And when you finally walk away, they’ll call you bitter, cold, or “too emotional”... just because you refused to keep bleeding for a love that never truly existed.

That’s not love.

That’s a trauma bond.

And healing from it will be the real love story... between you and yourself.

I’d like to add these experiences come in all forms. Men or women. Family, friends, acquaintances, managers, bosses, etc. It’s not always a romantic relationship. Stay vigilant about who is draining your energy with no regard to your personal wellbeing.

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Pay attention to how he treats you, not just what he says to you. Because the truth is, a man will say anything to keep you around... but his actions will always reveal how he really feels.

He might tell you he loves you, but love doesn’t look like confusion. It doesn’t feel like silence when you need comfort, or distance when you crave closeness. Love doesn’t flake on you, forget your needs, or make you feel like a burden for having emotions. He can whisper sweet things all day long, but if his behavior leaves you second-guessing your worth, believe the behavior.

Words are easy. Anyone can say, “I miss you,” and still not show up for you. Anyone can say, “You mean everything to me,” and still act like you're disposable. Some men use words like band-aids....just enough to stop you from bleeding, but never enough to truly heal you. They know exactly what to say to keep you invested while they keep their effort low and your expectations even lower.

But actions? Actions don’t lie. How he shows up when you’re hurt, how he responds to your needs, how he includes you in his life, how he handles conflict... that’s the truth. That’s the love. Or the lack of it.

So stop giving passes for words that don’t match behavior. Stop explaining away red flags just because he knows how to make you melt with a few carefully chosen lines. At the end of the day, the way a man treats you is the loudest truth he’ll ever tell you.

And if his actions are making you feel ignored, unsure, unappreciated, or unloved... don’t let his words convince you otherwise. You deserve consistent love, not convincing.

You can’t change your story. But you can change how it ends.

 

The Truth. 💯

 Ernest Hemingway once wrote: "The hardest lesson I’ve had to learn as an adult is the relentless need to keep going, no matter how shattered I feel inside."

This truth is both raw and universal. Life doesn’t pause when our hearts are heavy, our minds are fractured, or our spirits feel like they’re unraveling. It keeps moving—unrelenting, unapologetic—demanding that we move with it. There’s no time to stop, no pause for repair, no moment of stillness where we can gently piece ourselves back together. The world doesn’t wait, even when we need it to.

What makes this even harder is that no one really prepares us for it. As children, we grow up on a steady diet of stories filled with happy endings, tales of redemption and triumph where everything always falls into place. But adulthood strips away those comforting narratives. Instead, it reveals a harsh truth: survival isn’t glamorous or inspiring most of the time. It’s wearing a mask of strength when you’re falling apart inside. It’s showing up when all you want is to retreat. It’s choosing to move forward, step by painful step, when your heart begs for rest.

And yet, we endure. That’s the miracle of being human—we endure. Somewhere in the depths of our pain, we find reserves of strength we didn’t know we possessed. We learn to hold space for ourselves, to be the comfort we crave, to whisper words of hope when no one else does. Over time, we realize that resilience isn’t loud or grandiose; it’s a quiet defiance, a refusal to let life’s weight crush us entirely.

Yes, it’s messy. Yes, it’s exhausting. And yes, there are days when it feels almost impossible to take another step. But even then, we move forward. Each tiny step is proof of our resilience, a reminder that even in our darkest moments, we’re still fighting, still refusing to give up. 

That fight—that courage—is the quiet miracle of survival.

A goddess does not chase.💯

When a man is unclear in his commitment to a woman, it often means he is still playing around. He might give mixed signals, promising love and loyalty one day, only to disappear emotionally the next. This inconsistency is not about confusion—it’s about keeping options open while enjoying the comfort of your presence. But the truth is, a woman often struggles to see this for what it is. She holds on to hope, believing that someday he will realize her worth and change. But, dear woman, let me tell you—someday rarely comes, and you cannot spend your life waiting for a man to step up.

You are not a project for someone to decide whether they are ready to invest in. You are not a placeholder for someone to figure out their priorities. You are a goddess, deserving of unwavering love and respect. A man who is truly ready for you will not make you question where you stand. His actions will match his words, and his commitment will be clear as day. Anything less than that is not your destiny—it’s a distraction from the life you are meant to live.

When you allow yourself to wait for someone who is unsure, you compromise your own worth. You put their indecisiveness above your peace, and that is never a fair trade. Remember, love does not thrive in uncertainty. It grows in security, respect, and mutual effort. A man who values you will not hesitate to choose you, to honor you, and to build a future with you. Anything less is not love—it’s a game, and you are far too valuable to play along.

The challenge for many women is that they confuse potential with reality. They see the good in a man and believe it will eventually surface fully. But potential is not enough. What you deserve is a partner who shows up for you every single day, not one who keeps you guessing or makes you doubt your place in their life. A man who loves you will make sure you know, not by words alone but through consistent actions.

Do not allow your hope to blind you to the truth. Sometimes, the hardest thing to do is to walk away from someone you love, but it is also the most empowering. When you choose yourself, you set a standard for how others should treat you. You teach the world that you will not settle for anything less than what you truly deserve. That choice is an act of love—for yourself.

To the women reading this: you are not someone’s option. You are not someone’s maybe. You are a woman of infinite value, and the right man will recognize that without hesitation. The one who is meant for you will not make you wait in confusion. He will come into your life with clarity, with purpose, and with the willingness to commit fully to you.

Stop shrinking yourself to fit into someone’s life. Stop dimming your light in the hope that they will finally see you. The right person will see you, as you are, and love every bit of it. They will not ask you to wait, to prove your worth, or to fight for their attention. They will show up, every single time, because they know what they have in you.

You are powerful beyond measure. You carry the strength of generations within you. You are not here to beg for love or to settle for crumbs of affection. You are here to live a life of purpose, surrounded by those who honor and cherish you. Do not let anyone convince you otherwise.

So, dear woman, know your worth. Love yourself fiercely and unapologetically. Walk away from anything that makes you feel less than whole. The universe is waiting to align you with the love and life you deserve, but first, you must choose yourself. Stop waiting for “one day.” Create your own day, your own happiness, and your own destiny.

A goddess does not chase. She stands firm in her power, knowing that what is meant for her will never require her to lose herself. You are that goddess. Step into your power and never settle for less than the divine love and respect that are your birthright. Truth is at some point you'll realize that you've done too much for someone that the next possible step to do is to leave them alone & walk away. It's not like you're giving up but you have to draw the line from determination & desperation, what's yours will be yours & what's not yours will never be no matter how hard you try.

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THIS IS HOW YOU FORGIVE THE PERSON WHO BROKE YOUR HEART. 

You forgive them by giving yourself time to heal. This doesn’t happen all at once. This doesn't happen overnight. It’s a slow progression. You take two steps forward and four steps back. Sometimes it won't make sense. But you grow a bit stronger, a bit more resilient, every single day. Even if you don’t always see it. 

You forgive them by focusing on yourself. Stop pouring your energy into toxicity. You unplug. You unfollow. Practice self-care. Reread your favorite books and go out with your best friends, laughing and remembering how good things can be when you surround yourself with positivity. Tell your broken heart it’s okay to take a break to remember how to smile again. 

You forgive them by removing yourself from the situation. The longer you dwell in it, in the heartache, the more it festers. It's difficult, but you have to leave it alone. Honor your emotions. Honor your feelings. But don't keep circling back. Don't keep obsessing over what occurred. Imagine it like a balloon. Let it float away. Tell it goodbye. It can't hurt you now. 

You forgive them by accepting what they did. That doesn't mean the pain is erased. That doesn’t mean you suddenly think it’s okay or you've let them off the hook. It doesn't mean they aren't responsible for their actions or that you've forgotten what happened. It just means accepting what's done is done. It means admitting there is no rewind button. You can only move forward. 

You forgive them by regaining your life. Because there is so much more than just one person who broke your heart.