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Pay attention to how he treats you, not just what he says to you. Because the truth is, a man will say anything to keep you around... but his actions will always reveal how he really feels.

He might tell you he loves you, but love doesn’t look like confusion. It doesn’t feel like silence when you need comfort, or distance when you crave closeness. Love doesn’t flake on you, forget your needs, or make you feel like a burden for having emotions. He can whisper sweet things all day long, but if his behavior leaves you second-guessing your worth, believe the behavior.

Words are easy. Anyone can say, “I miss you,” and still not show up for you. Anyone can say, “You mean everything to me,” and still act like you're disposable. Some men use words like band-aids....just enough to stop you from bleeding, but never enough to truly heal you. They know exactly what to say to keep you invested while they keep their effort low and your expectations even lower.

But actions? Actions don’t lie. How he shows up when you’re hurt, how he responds to your needs, how he includes you in his life, how he handles conflict... that’s the truth. That’s the love. Or the lack of it.

So stop giving passes for words that don’t match behavior. Stop explaining away red flags just because he knows how to make you melt with a few carefully chosen lines. At the end of the day, the way a man treats you is the loudest truth he’ll ever tell you.

And if his actions are making you feel ignored, unsure, unappreciated, or unloved... don’t let his words convince you otherwise. You deserve consistent love, not convincing.